Why is advice largely useless?

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If I followed all the advice I’ve been given and it worked as intended, I would be fantastically productive, perfectly healthy, filthy rich, and getting laid all the time. None of those descriptions seem particularly apt. (I exaggerate for effect. In reality I have read advice on all sorts of things. Most topics were more mundane than those I listed, for example advice on relieving stress or staying organized.) If people are constantly inundated with advice, why do they, by and large, fail to achieve the things the advice was meant to help with?
Good question.
Great advice is all around us.
Yet it is in many cases not effective.To minimize frustration & for good advice to create great results I find that it helps to ask myself 3 simple questions.

  1. Do I fully understand the advice? We have different world views and buckets of experience that color our interpretation of the world around us including the advice people give us. We can all listen to the same lecturer and have multiple interpretation of the key take aways. Our sound byte culture doesn’t help in this regard as clips and quotes can be taken out of context. Oftentimes it helps to ask the advice source if your understanding & interpretation are correct (If your lucky enough to have access to him or her)
  2. Is the advice relevant to me? We can understand the advice. We can follow through with action but it might just not be applicable to us. It could be timing. Sometimes I think back to advice I received in the past and find that it’s much more relevant to me now as I’m older.  It could be our physical location. Sometimes a change of scenery can produce massive changes in the effectiveness of good advice and in turn our own fortunes.
  3. Will I follow through advice with sustainable action? This is the killer of good intentions. Following through. Sometimes the advice takes us down a longer road than we would have liked to tread. Maybe a harder one too. Oftentimes we give up before we finish. New Years Resolutions are self advice that often die a forgetful death walking down this road.

Hope this was clear enough and can be of some help to you!

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Why is advice largely useless?

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Why is advice largely useless?

 

If I followed all the advice I’ve been given and it worked as intended, I would be fantastically productive, perfectly healthy, filthy rich, and getting laid all the time. None of those descriptions seem particularly apt. (I exaggerate for effect. In reality I have read advice on all sorts of things. Most topics were more mundane than those I listed, for example advice on relieving stress or staying organized.) If people are constantly inundated with advice, why do they, by and large, fail to achieve the things the advice was meant to help with?

Confirmation bias is my candidate for the top reason. People who succeed (and are most likely to offer “advice”) make up idiotic reasons for why they succeeded, mostly discounting the role of luck, and writing self-serving stories and “prescriptions” that are less about helping others and more about self-aggrandization.

More specifically, this comes down to an almost incredible capacity to ignore necessary/sufficient conditions for a particular piece of advice to work.

For me, a piece of advice that does not have an if… then… structure is completely useless, because my basic bullshit detector filter is a “there’s no free lunch” rule of thumb.

Almost nobody prefaces advice with the condition, “this will work for you if _________ and will not work if ____________”

The presence of that structure, on the other hand, makes me immediately take the person seriously, because they’ve taken the trouble to convert a single example (i.e. an existence proof) into a more general truth statement that is carefully circumscribed.

Also a lot of advice that apparently works does not work because of the content of the advice, but the sheer fact of somebody offering an understanding and sympathetic reaction to another person’s situation. That alone can be enough sometimes, whether or not the advice is valid. It’s sort of a placebo effect. It’s what people call “motivational speaking” as opposed to real advice.

Top Job Bloggers’ Most Popular Articles of 2013

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Meg Guiseppi Meg GuiseppiSocial Proof: Where Online Presence Meets Personal Branding
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Career Alley Joey Trebif: Top 6 Questions Asked for Embedded Engineers During an Interview
Julie Walraven Julie Walraven: Top 5 Major LinkedIn mistakes to avoid in 2013
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Joshua Waldman Joshua Waldman: Part 1: Why You Should Use LinkedIn — Like Your Career Depends on It
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Stephen Darori is the managing Partner of 3XC Global Partners. He is the Lead  Principal of Darori Capital Luxembourg. Stephen has been the Chairman of the Darori Foundation since 1982.

 

The Darori Foundation is the largest  donor of books to Israeli ( and also South African) University, College and Muncipal libraries and has consistently been so since 1969. The Darori Foundation , given the decreasing demand for hard copy books in the 21st Century Digital age , now leads and participates in Projects to put Internet Devices in Every Child in Israel. In 2013 , $5 million was earmarked to upgrade the notebooks used in schools in the Southern Periphery  Towns within 20 kms of Gaza . IBM (Corp)  quietly committed them selves to  matching finance ( in kind) . The new IBM notebooks are purchased at almost cost to IBM ( substantially discounted ) . Lets not start a turf war in Zion between IBM Israel ( franchised sales rep and IBM Corp )  . Keep the later sentence as confidentiality as possible. Over and above Notebooks and other Internet Devices , free ISP services  are provided and have been upgraded to a 100 Mega Down-link.

 

Stephen is also the founder of the Start Up Nation Critical Canvas. This is a  Socio Economical Political Lobby to change the employment Laws in Israel and open up the Job Market  to High Tech People who are not Jewish or Israeli. the pitch is simple . Israeli Academia can now longer keep pace with the Demand of the Start Up Nation’s White Silicon City ‘s Silicon Boulevard, the Golden Silicon City and the Silicon Wadi’s demand for High Tech Headcount. This is an extremely difficult Pitch to deliver as all decision makers wear two or more different Caps . The pitch says let them work in Zion, pay taxes , enjoy all the benefits of an Israeli Tax Payer but never Israeli Citizenship unless they marry an Israeli. The Tax System for individuals in Israel is structures around an Israeli ID Number. No ID number , no opportunity to work in Israel . Medical associations have a boutique solution for non-Israelis living in Zion who require medical treatment

Personal branding

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Personal branding is the practice of people marketing themselves and their careers as brands.[1] While previous self-helpmanagement techniques were about self-improvement, the personal-branding concept suggests instead that success comes from self-packaging.[1] Personal branding also involves creating an asset by defining an individual’s bodyclothingphysical appearance,digital and online presence and areas of knowledge in a way leading to a uniquely distinguishable, and ideally memorable, impression.[citation needed] The term is thought to have been first used and discussed in a 1997 article by Tom Peters.[2]

Personal Branding is esentially; the ongoing process of establishing a prescribed image or impression in the mind of others about an individual, group or organization.[3] Personal branding can often involves the application of one’s name to various products. For example, the celebrity real-estate mogul Donald Trump uses his last name extensively on his buildings and on the products he endorses (e.g. Trump Steaks).

History[edit]

Personal branding, self-positioning and all individual branding by whatever name, was first introduced in 1937 in the book Think and Grow Rich[citation needed] by Napoleon Hill. The idea surfaced later in the 1981 book Positioning: The Battle for Your Mind, by Al Riesand Jack Trout.[4] More specifically in “Chapter 23. Positioning Yourself and Your Career – You can benefit by using positioning strategy to advance your own career. Key principle: Don’t try to do everything yourself. Find a horse to ride”.

It was later popularized by Tom Peters.

See also[edit]

References[edit]

  1. Jump up to:a b Lair, Daniel J.; Sullivan, Katie; Cheney, George (2005). “Marketization and the Recasting of the Professional Self”Management Communication Quarterly 18 (3): 307–343. doi:10.1177/0893318904270744.
  2. Jump up^ Asacker, Tom (10 March 2004). “The Seven Wonders of Branding”Forbes.com. Retrieved June 14, 2013.
  3. Jump up^ Creating Your Personal Brand – Los Ellis 2009
  4. Jump up^ Ries, Al; Trout, Jack (1981). Positioning: The Battle for your Mind. McGraw-Hill. ISBN 978-0-07-135916-0.

 

10 Overused Words You Should Never Put On Your Resume

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Are you responsible? A strategic planner and creative thinker?

 

So is the rest of the career-seeking world, according to LinkedIn’s annual list of the year’s most overused resume words. “Responsible” was the worst offender in 2013, followed by “strategic” and “creative.”

To compile its fourth annual list, LinkedIn examined the online profiles and resumes of its more than 259 million members. In the two previous years, “creative” led the rankings.

Here is LinkedIn’s full list of overused resume words:

  1. Responsible
  2. Strategic
  3. Creative
  4. Effective
  5. Patient
  6. Expert
  7. Organizational
  8. Driven
  9. Innovative
  10. Analytical

Nicole Williams, the official career expert of LinkedIn, says the list is a reminder of how it’s always better to show rather than tell when selling yourself on a resume. “Providing concrete examples to demonstrate how you are responsible or strategic is always better than just simply using the words,” she explains.

While there’s nothing wrong with being responsible, strategic, or creative, the danger in marketing yourself with those terms is that you’ll blend in with the job pool.

“If you sound like everyone else, you won’t stand out from other professionals vying for opportunities,” Williams says. “Differentiate yourself by uniquely describing what you have accomplished in your career and back it up with concrete examples of your work.”

Check out an infographic on the data below:

 

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4 Habits of Superbly Confident People

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Having confidence, to me, is this awesome feeling that feels like you are walking on steady and solid ground, 10 feet tall.

Wanted to share with you some of my thoughts of how to have that feeling.

One of my favorite movie scenes is from the movie Chariots of Fire, where the runner Eric Liddell is running in a race by the ocean. As the wonderful music of Vangelis plays, he asks himself, “Where does the power come from, to see the race to its end?” He then hears his inner voice respond, “The power comes from within.” (If you haven’t seen the movie, give yourself an inspiring treat and watch it!)

When you are feeling confident, it’s like having that inner power propel you forward, and all parts of yourself are conspiring in your favor, cheering you on. It feels like an inner dance that has nothing to do with the externals and how we are doing with our outer achievements. (Interesting that the word confidence at the end sounds like dance!) You just feel good about yourself. That power is in the core of our beings. It holds us, walks us, breathes us, and when you find that core, you also find the confidence to do things that you never thought possible.

Rumi said it best: Life is rigged in your favor! And having that belief makes you feel confident to take action, without second-guessing or doubting yourself.

I want to share with you a specific moment in my life when my confidence was shaken, and how I regained it. It was during the time I was writing my first book, Conversations With the Goddesses. I was feeling terribly insecure and doubtful about my ability to write or think that I had anything to say.

In the middle of this uncertainty, quite unexpectedly, a friend from out of town came to stay with me for the weekend while she attended a neuroscience seminar in the city. She was rather unusual in the way asserted her authority, and had a sixth sense about things.

The night my friend arrived, I shared the doubts and difficulties of my writing with her, and to my surprise, I found that she was listening to me without offering any advice. I was a bit surprised when she knocked on my bedroom door the next morning, while it was still barely light outside, asking me to wake up.

She urgently said, I have an insight about your book and it can’t wait.

She said to me, you have everything you need to write this book. But you lack one thing: confidence. And the reason you lack confidence is that you think you are going to do it on your own. You are forgetting that you have inner support, inner allies, inner knowledge that comes from something beyond you. You are not alone. You already have the information in you and you need to trust it. If you are open to receiving this assistance, all sorts of support will come your way and you are going to write a wonderful book.

I wrote everything she said down in red marker, every word. It was a catalytic moment, and I felt so alive that to this day I have saved that paper as a reminder that confidence and strength come from the knowledge that we are never alone. It comes from that power within. She was absolutely right. Once I opened up to that knowledge, my creativity was unleashed and I was able to complete my first book.

How do we find that power within? That is the question and the inner work that each one of us has to do — to go inside and get a hold of our core. We all struggle with the issue of confidence. It leaves us when things don’t go our way. Like a negative current that tries to consume us and spiral us downward, before you know it you can sink into the quicksand. Reconnecting with that wiser part of us — that knows our value beyond our achievements or outer recognition, and has a larger perspective — is the winning strategy that changes the negative current that comes against us, and transforms it into a positive wave that pushes us forward to our next committed action.

Our negative voices, which play in our head, say to us that we are not good enough.

They lie to us, making us feel that we are less than others and deplete us from the most valuable commodity a human being can have, trusting oneself and one’s inner wisdom. The antidote is radical self-acceptance. I don’t know if you know the character that Al Franken played in a television series called Stuart Smalley, but he famously said “I am good enough, I am smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.” It is a good mantra for all of us to run inside our heads.

I have learned from my mother, who had unshakable inner trust in life, that the ability to create the life you want is not based on resumes and degrees, but on giving yourself permission to be who you are; accepting yourself the way you are; trying new things; not being afraid to fail; and using this world as your playground, knowing that you are writing the script as you go along. But often in our minds and creative imaginations, we start to write scripts that have negative outcomes that undermine us. Our critical voice stops us from attempting something new and following the spark of a new idea. I think Shakespeare said it best, “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.”

There are four principles I have discovered that help me get back to my confidence when it falters.

1. Affirm that you are not alone. What that means, is that we often abandon ourselves, and that creates a feeling of tremendous insecurity. You are the one who has got to have your back and heart. There are three factors to knowing you are not alone: you reach within and you grab hold of your core self; you reach outward and you ask for help; and you reach to others and offer help.

2. Move into radical self-acceptance. Start appreciating every little thing about you, reinforce the positive, and refrain from focusing on lack. When you are feeling insecure, tell yourself, “I can’t afford the luxury of indulging in my own insecurities.” I often play the Bruno Mars song “Just the Way You Are,” which energizes me (and I wonder if Bruno wrote it for me).

3. Don’t wait to be perfect before you take action. You are always going to be a work in progress. Don’t wait for perfect circumstances. We put conditions on our happiness and well-being that distract us from being open to the opportunities that are in front of us.

4. Your presence is required. Call your heart energy present as you are living your daily life. Bring it present in your conversations and all your interactions. Do not disconnect from your heart. It is what brings fulfillment in your day.

Let’s get into that sweet spot of really accepting and cherishing our vulnerabilities, our humanness and ourselves! Let’s embrace the whole package, the things we are good at and the things we are not so good at, because that is how we find our confidence and how we make the ground we walk on not only steady, but sacred.